Comments on: On grief…wherein she wails and sniffs

By: Aswirly

Aswirly — Sat, 01 Aug 2009 17:53:44 +0000

You made me nearly cry here. You are very very right…Time is not a cure

By: Eliane

Eliane — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 09:49:16 +0000

only the good die young, sob….

By: Brigitta

Brigitta — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 06:42:39 +0000

Sweetie, I know exactly what you mean. My father died 31 years ago this August. And yes, you pick up your life and grow up and do all the things you’re supposed to do. But you will always miss that one special person. Every special day, you’ll feel that void again. It doesn’t go away ever. The pain just gets less sharp.

Big hugs
Bee

By: B

Thu, 30 Jul 2009 06:24:01 +0000

Oh, Spud, I wish I was there to give you a hug!!! You write about your loss so honestly. What angers me is that I think people know there is no getting over it but they don’t want to deal with someone else’s pain, so they’re glad that “you are doing so well”. Cyber hugs!

By: Shereiner

Shereiner — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 03:58:16 +0000

Thank you for writing that all out. Reminded me of how I feel about my Grandmother. You hit it dead-center…

By: Bee

Bee — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 21:09:13 +0000

What a sweet song — and such a beautiful post about grief.

I think that losing one’s mother must be particularly hard, because we all need to feel mothered and that space or role just can’t be replaced. (Not to devalue other losses . . . )

I’m all choked up as I write this!

By: Deb Daley

Deb Daley — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 14:46:56 +0000

Sent the song to my girlie at school. She loved it too!

By: Ali

Ali — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 13:58:24 +0000

Oh Spuddles yes I want to come over and have a snifter with you. You’re so right, all of it… I’ve just never been able to say it out loud. I kinda keep those emotions bottled so thank you thank you thank you for getting it out there. I still have my mother but she’s riddled with Parkinson’s and we don’t have the same relationship we once did. Communication is hard and she can no longer travel over here (something she loved to do). I miss her like she’s gone and she’s still here!!!!! The last time she visited was in Jan ’08 and that’s when my stepdad passed away right there in my guest bathroom!!! Tragic, devastating, sad, unbelievable and just plain wrong are words to describe that day. Everyday there’s a tiny reminder of him here, it’s harder that it happened here because I have constant images of his last days spent with us. His last Church Service was in my Church seeing the girls being Baptised, it’s a comfort but I have a little hurt every Sunday when I think of him up there with his hands on them.
So go ahead… boo hoo all you want.. it’s what makes us human. Much love….. me. x

By: Jeannette

Jeannette — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 13:00:46 +0000

In times like these I wish my English was better so I could write down what my heart wants to tell you.
Death does leave a heartache and it can´t be healed but it also comes with beautiful memories no one can take away from you. I have lost some very dear to my heart and whenever I get a pang of loss it also brings me back to the good and loving times with them. Tears and laughter are often close.
Just want to give you a big virtual hug and yep…I heart you too! XXX

By: Bryony

Bryony — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 10:42:00 +0000

I haven’t lost a parent yet but I have lost someone very very dear to me. She died in November last year and it still really hurts. I don’t think I realied how much until I read your post as I haven’t been thinking about it much, avoiding the issue as it were. You’re very good with words spud and I will be adapting my thinking about this now x